How Can We Help You? (Part 4 of 4)

When you are pregnant with your second do you think “How will I ever love this baby as much as I love my first?” Do you wonder “Will my firstborn be sad, or mad upon his or her baby sibling’s arrival?” Or how about “How will I ever handle TWO (or three??) children at the same time?”

Don’t worry!!! You are NOT alone. Almost all “second” time moms have these thoughts, and feelings. And it IS an adjustment, but The Baby Mavens can help you with that too, of course. ūüôā

We OFTEN times are hired by the pregnant mom of a two year old who isn’t quite sure what she needs help with when her second child arrives, but she is certain she will need help of some sort! And watching your firstborn become a big brother, or big sister is often times an experience you don’t want to miss! Wait until the very first time your older “baby” shares his most priced toy with HIS “baby”, your heart will just melt.

Sometimes the evening is a more challenging time of day for moms juggling a new baby and a toddler, or older child. There is dinner to be made, and sometimes homework to be done, and well- that baby probably wants to eat right smack dab in the middle of it all! Having a Maven there to help could look a little like this:

It’s 4pm, I arrive to a screaming toddler (he wanted the orange cup for a snack, not the red one), a crying baby in mom’s arms, and mom looking like she is on the verge too. I bend down to my buddy’s level and in a quiet voice remind him to just use his words and ask for the orange cup, he snuffles a little and says “pwease I have owange cup?” I quickly trade the offended cup out, and make a quick bottle for the baby. Then I grab said crying infant from mom, and ask “How about you have a break for a few? Can I make you a cup of tea?” She replies: “I just want a shower.” So I send Mom off to the bathroom, and shuffle the toddler into the family room with me and the baby. I settle the baby in for the bottle, and manage to read the toddler a few stories while we cuddle on the couch. The baby falls asleep, so I put her down in the nearby Pack n’ Play, and get some crayons and coloring books out for my little friend.

While he is coloring quietly, I sneak over to the kitchen and quickly throw the dishes in the sink in the dishwasher and wash the bottle. I notice there is a casserole on the counter, with directions from a friend. So I turn on the oven, and make Mom a cup of tea. When she emerges from the shower, she notices that things are a little cleaner and a little quieter so I encourage her to have a rest, which of course she graciously accepts! I peek in on the baby and her big brother, baby is sound asleep and brother is still quietly coloring away. So I sit next to him on the couch and fold a basket of laundry that was left there. I put the casserole in the oven, and get some plates and silverware out for the toddler. I know they will feed him first but that mom will wait for dad to come home to eat with him.

Just as I am sitting Big Brother down for dinner, the baby starts to make some noise and Mom comes out. She sits and nurses the baby, and we catch up for a few minutes. Then she passes the baby to me and she sits with her oldest while he eats. I take the baby over to the sink for a quick bath, and get her all snuggled up in her jammies. Mom then takes her big boy in the other room for a bath. I pop the baby in the Moby that I brought, and clean up from dinner, putting two plates aside to heat up when Dad comes home. I then take a peak at the hampers in the baby’s room, and in her brother’s, and quickly throw any dirty laundry in the washing machine. Mom and Big Brother come out of the bathroom, and head to his room for his books and bed. I bend down so that he can give his baby sister a kiss on the top of her head, and he gives me a quick hug too! (How sweet?!?!)

Mom comes out a little while later, and finds the baby swaddled in her bassinet. Dinner is just about ready, and she has a few more minutes to relax before Dad comes in. I tell her “Put your feet up and throw on that show you have been watching on Netflix! Have a great night, and see you on Thursday!”

When I leave a shift feeling like Mom has gotten to have a little break, and her babies were well cared for I totally feel a little like I should be wearing a cape! ūüôā Just call us Super Doulas!



How Can We Help You? (Part 3 of 4)

Have you ever been so tired you couldn’t stand up long enough to shower? ¬†Too tired to cook dinner? ¬†So exhausted you fall asleep standing up while waiting for the Nespresso to brew?

If you’re a new parent, the answer is a resounding “YES!” Now for my next question – would you like to get some sleep? ¬†Even one full 8-hour night? ¬†I’m sure you’re saying “YES!” again! ¬†Well, help is on the way.√ľberforderung

The Baby Mavens offer overnight care. ¬†Yes, that’s right, we will care for your newborn(s) overnight while you sleep. ¬†ALL. Night. Long. ¬†Maybe you already knew that, but you weren’t sure what an overnight shift might look like. ¬†Here’s an example, but remember every family is different, so your needs may be very different!

I arrive at 10 pm to find mom and dad semi-comatose on the couch with their 3-week-old baby between them. ¬†He’s asleep for now, but due to eat soon. ¬†A quick check in with the parents and I learn that things are mostly going well but that mom’s PPD is causing her extreme anxiety. ¬†She, along with her physician, have decided that breastfeeding is causing her far too much stress, so she is no longer nursing. Both parents seem relieved with this decision. She is going to continue pumping as often as she feels up to it, but at this point, we will be using up the freezer stash and transitioning to formula. ¬†Mom happily reports that she is going to bed and will see me in the morning. Both parents retire for the night.

I move baby into the bassinet and tackle the dishes in the kitchen.  After the sink is clean and the dishwasher is running, I prepare a bottle of Expressed Breast Milk for the baby who is now awake and ready to eat.  He hungrily downs all 3 ounces and of course needs a diaper change afterwards.  Then, I re-swaddle him and settle him back into the bassinet.  With a little bit of shushing and swaying he falls back to sleep.

I gather his laundry from the nursery and start a load of his clothes. ¬†There are towels in the dryer which I fold and put in the linen closet. ¬†Now I settle in on the couch next to the sleeping baby. ¬†I doze off as I listen¬†to his sweet little baby sounds. At about 2 am he awakens me looking for his next meal. ¬†I quickly get a bottle prepared and feed him. This time he’s so sleepy it takes a little prodding to get him to take more than an ounce; he keeps falling back asleep. Once he’s all settled back into bed, I go downstairs and move the laundry to the dryer. ¬†Now I rest some more myself.

4:30 am and baby is stirring, but not really awake yet. ¬†I stick the bag of breastmilk in a cup of warm water and run down and grab the laundry so I can fold it after he has his bottle. ¬†He wakes up and has his bottle and another diaper change. ¬†He’s bright-eyed and wide awake. ¬†“No, my little friend, it’s not wake-up time yet!” ¬†It takes a bit of shushing and swaying to get him back to sleep. ¬†I finish folding the laundry and quickly put it away. ¬†The dishwasher is done, so I put the dishes away as silently as I am able, so as to not disturb the parents or the baby. All bottles are washed, the Diaper Genie is emptied, and I am able to close my eyes once again…

5:50 – my silent alarm goes off and I wake up, careful not to wake the baby. ¬†I fold my blanket to the back of the couch and fluff the pillows the way they go. ¬†I run into the powder room and brush my teeth and hair before greeting the parents for the day. I meet Mom in the kitchen at 6:00. ¬†She’s feeling refreshed and ready to take on the day!

So, I ask you again, how can we help you? #TheBabyMavensDoThat







“This is THE BEST time of your life!

“Enjoy it while she is small! It gets tough later!” ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† “Isn’t Motherhood Amazing?”

Do you feel like punching everyone who makes one of these comments to you? Do you feel like you *Should* be feeling better about being a new mom? Are you feeling like perhaps you don’t measure up to other mothers you see on TV and around (insert name of perfect town, inhabited only by perfect moms!) ¬†[ie., Danvers, Beverly, Swampscott, Lynnfield, Manchester, Salem, Hamilton,Stoneham…]

Well, you are not alone… Motherhood is tough. And not everyone handles it the same way! If you’re feeling more than a little overwhelmed, or more exhausted than you can possibly imagine, or overly anxious about everything, or simply confused or sad much of the time – you might have PPD (Postpartum Depression).

But don’t worry, help is available. You DESERVE help. You NEED help.

PLEASE, Please don’t be ashamed to look for counseling, or medical intervention. Talk to your spouse, talk to your girlfriends, talk to your doctor, or therapist! No one should go through this alone.

Here is a great blog, written in plain English, about what the symptoms of PPD could look like! If you are experiencing any of them, please seek help!  You deserve to feel better!

The Baby Mavens¬†can recommend a good therapist if you need one. ¬†But you don’t have to go through this alone! ¬†AND, maybe you need more than one hour at the therapist – maybe you need a supportive non-judgemental helper AT HOME! A postpartum doula is just that. She is someone to listen to your birth story, again. ¬†Someone to reassure you that the baby is in fact making normal sounds. Someone to hold the baby so you can have a long shower, uninterrupted! ¬†Someone to cook dinner and cut up that watermelon before it spoils. ¬†The Baby Mavens do all this and more!